The end of the year fills most men’s heads with new goals and dreams but sadly few do enough thinking, reenvisioning and rethinking. What if the activity before we leave 2025 is to become more instead of getting more by the end of this year point? I find it interesting how each year we get into the same rut — the pressure, the plan making, the promise making — but what a man’s life changes with is not what he resolves to do January 1st. It is what he resolves upon before the end of December 31st. Here are 10 things that you can do before we leave 2025 and plunge into the year 2026 with vigor, perception, and self-respect — the things backed up by the facts of science, wisdom and practicalities. 1. Audit Your Life, Not Just Your Year Before you set new goals, sit with your journal and ask: What drained my energy this year? What made me feel truly alive? This kind of reflection helps you align your direction with your truth. 📘 Inspired by : “ The Mountain Is You ” by B...
Divorce lawyers and researchers agree: most marriages don’t collapse overnight. They slowly break down because of unresolved issues that grow over time. The good news? With awareness and action, you can prevent these cracks from turning into a breakup.
Here are the top 5 reasons for divorce—and proven solutions to rebuild love.
1. Poor Communication
The Problem: Constant fights, criticism, or silent treatment. According to Dr. John Gottman, these patterns predict divorce with over 90% accuracy.
The Solution: Practice active listening. In 8 Rules of Love, Jay Shetty reminds us: “Love grows in clarity, not in confusion.” Set aside weekly “talk time” to share needs without blame.
2. Loss of Intimacy
The Problem: Couples feel like roommates instead of lovers. Small acts of affection disappear, leading to loneliness.
The Solution: Rebuild emotional closeness through daily connection. Esther Perel (Mating in Captivity) suggests balancing closeness with space. Try the “5 Love Deposits” rule—compliments, hugs, or kind words every day.
3. Money Conflicts
The Problem: Finances become a battlefield—one wants to save, the other to spend. Money stress is one of the top divorce triggers (Ramsey Solutions survey).
The Solution: Talk about values, not just numbers. A University of Michigan study shows couples with shared financial goals are happier. Create a joint “money vision board” to align priorities.
4. Broken Trust & Infidelity
The Problem: Affairs or dishonesty shatter security. Trust is one of the hardest things to repair.
The Solution: Transparency heals. Gottman says: “Trust is built in very small moments.” Share openly, be consistent, and give time for wounds to heal.
5. Unrealistic Expectations
The Problem: Many expect marriage to always feel passionate and effortless. When reality hits, disappointment grows.
The Solution: Focus on friendship, not fantasy. Gottman’s research shows strong marriages are built on companionship and shared meaning. As Jay Shetty writes: “The best relationships are not the ones without challenges, but the ones where both keep showing up.”
Final Word
Relationships end not because love disappears—but because connection fades. The key to avoiding divorce lies in small, daily choices: communicate clearly, rebuild intimacy, align values, and keep growing together.
💡 Takeaway: Love isn’t automatic—it’s a practice. And with practice, it lasts.
Comments
Post a Comment